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5 Life Energy Thieves and 5 Energy Boosters

Most people rarely experience balance much less enjoy it, but it is essential to true prosperity.

There were two parts to this concept. First I'll give you the 5 Life Energy Thieves and then the 5 Life Energy Boosters. I don't usually do the negative side of things first but in this case I thought it would make a better comparison.

Number One Enemy: Ruts When I talk about 'ruts' I'm talking about doing the same unproductive routines that you think HAVE to be done but usually do not.

These ruts are routines and activities that do not promote the achievement of your goals and desires. These activities zap your energy and lower your drive because they are tedious, boring and should be done by someone else or dropped all together, but you keep them up and take away energy of more important things.

Number Two Enemy: Worry, Distraction and Anger This is the emotional group. We let these feelings drive us to one extreme or the other and rob us of hours of productive work.

Number Three Enemy: Perfectionism and Procrastination They sound like polar opposites, but the true is they are twins of the same parent-fear. The perfectionist never finishes because they are afraid their work will not be accepted. The procrastinator never starts for the same reason, fear of being or doing wrong.

Number Four Enemy: Struggling with Relationships Whether it's a business to business relationship, a relationship with a person inside your business or a personal relationship it takes two people and if only one side is doing anything to work it out you are wasting your time.

Some much energy is wasted on struggling to make a relationship work that should just be dropped-it takes two, both sides must work to get results.

Number Five Enemy: Scarcity Thinking Not just scarcity of finances but scarcity thinking about work, about health, about friends about anything and everything. Scarcity thinking will steal your zest for life, so don't let it crept in at any level.

Now I want to share the 5 Life Energy Boosters with you.

Number One: Instead of stuck in ruts, we exercise willingness and courage to act

To get out of our ruts we first need the willingness and courage to act differently, to take a chance outside of our comfort zone and give life a fresh look. This will start a new surge of energy in your life. For many, it's like going from black and white to color.

Number Two: Instead of worry, distraction and anger, practice confidence, positive focus and gratitude.

Again this is the emotional package to change your energy on the inside. Confidence can start with small things and build on each action. Positive focus encourages, gives hope and stirs up energy and gratitude for what you already have keeps you on the right track.

I remember years ago after a surgery my wife had when she was at a very low point in life, she said she started her road back with simple things. She was grateful that she could see her family, hear our voices, then that she could walk, even if it was slow and from there gratitude brought more gratitude and more energy with it.

Number Three: Instead of perfectionism or procrastination we say, 'Aim high and let it fly'.

Go ahead and have big goals, big vision, big desires and act on them. Then regroup and act again. All action may not work, but it at least shows you what to do next. So regroup and act again. The movement alone gives you energy.

Number Four: Instead of struggling with relationships, enjoy them.

Now as I said it takes two in order for a relationship to work. Now the first way to resolve this is just to drop the relationship and move on. This is sometimes what you need to do. But if you are in a relationship you can't just drop, you can still get energy from it by enjoying it-and how do you do that? You enjoy it by not focusing on the other person but focusing solely on my actions and my thoughts.

By being kind, giving, loving and positive in all that I do, I can walk away knowing I've done my best. This may or may not change the relationship, but it surely will not hurt it any longer and my contributions will energize me.

Number Five: Instead of scarcity thinking, practice abundance and prosperity thinking

Instead of looking at a small pie and wondering how it's going to be cut so I get my piece, start looking for ways to increase the size of the pie. People who try to build their abundance by living cheaply just end up being cheap at the end and there is nothing worse that a wealthy person who is cheap. Thinking abundance is thinking expansion and that brings energy.

Well, that's our 5 energy thieves and 5 energy boosters.

Copyright (c) 2007 Good News Publications

Duke Clarke is a writer/coach/teacher who helps individuals reach their full potential. Find out more at http://www.DukeClarke.com or [http://www.thethinkingchristianinstitute.com/]

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The Unbelievable Power Of Certainty

For centuries now, in history, the unbelievable power of certainty is the attribute that draws people to leaders and experts. It is what comes into play when you want to influence, make an impact or achieve the impossible whereas a lack of it can stop you dead in your tracks. But what is certainty?

How do you get such trait? Do you have a lack of confidence from time to time? Are you allowing yourself to doubt, even if it is for a second? Why do you still lack confidence, despite knowing, doing, preparing or practicing?

The reason is you possess some uncertainty! It can be about yourself, your abilities, what you believe in, your relationship or anything else. Have you ever known someone who knows their stuff, but just lacked confidence? Well, confidence comes from knowing yourself or your own business, but in taking it a step further, you understand that the power of certainty comes from not doubt at all.

My Shaolin Kung Fu master always says that self-confidence is for children and you have better to be certain. If you do not sense an inner certainty about what you want or what you need to do, then it will be over before you know it. Luckily for you, the power of certainty can be developed.

Gaining certitude can take time but the more you use it, the better you will get. It begins with you sharing your ideas so often that you finally find your voice and become sure in what you believe or teach. It is a big deal because the more you share with others, the more certain you will become. The power of certainty provides the key to unlocking what is holding you back.

"Certainty helps us take the actions to achieve our dreams." - Tony Robbins

The Inner battle for Certainty

You have to understand that when ideas take hold in your mind, an inner battle begins between your unconscious and conscious mind. It often comes down to your conscious mind which wants something while your unconscious mind may not believe a thing you say. When you lack power of certainty, there is automatically a conflict, a struggle, and ideas just remain thoughts.

You might be trying to tell your unconscious that you are going to you will be financially free in ten years' time or that you will have millions by the time you are thirty. But if your conscious mind is uncertain and has doubts, it will go 'Yes, right. No way in hell!' Then rejects your energy and desires into space where it will just bounce back and have no effect.

Your certitude needs to be anchored so deeply that it becomes unshakable. But at first, your power of certainty has to be greater than your doubts. When you choose to act with such inevitability, you can overcome any fear or doubt you might have. You can achieve it mentally through invocations, not affirmations, but invocation as it involves feelings of certainty through your bones, body, heart, and soul.

As an expert, I believe you owe it to yourself to act with certitude. I truly believe and have also personally experienced the power of certainty which grows over time and goes beyond self-confidence.

The Lack of Certainty brings a Lack of Action

If you unsure and do not feel a power of certainty, you will surely lack taking action. To live their financial dreams, most people always think about wanting to generate an enormous amount of money. They love to talk a good game with some 'If... ,' and tell others about their big dream, but in the end, they never take action to realize it.

What are the reasons? Well, they do not have the certainty that they can do it. They have no certitude about the outcome. They do not believe in themselves or how they can get there. They then begin to fall into fears and doubts. As a result, their self-thinking and self-talking put things off.

Self-talk combines that little voice and the quiet conversations you have with it. You should be more careful of these little internal phrases as they can build your power of certainty or to tear it apart. It is a fact that certainty has a real influence on your conduct and actions. How? If you have failed to take decisions in any part of your life, it is somewhat because you are uncertain or unsure as to which method could succeed or fail. So you put off what you need to do today until later.

The Influence of Certainty over Confidence

The power of certainty paves the way for you to take action, even massive action. And the impact of these massive actions is how you improve your confidence and make things happen in your life. But what is holding you back from raising your game?

From what I have seen and learned from my experiences all over the world, is that it does not matter how confident or successful you are, we all have certain zones of weakness from time to time. I do not believe that anyone is immune to uncertainty. But if you decide to do something, and start to plan towards it, you then create confidence which in turn builds in time, certainty.

Therefore, it is when you decide with absolute certitude that you are going to create your dreams and then start to build a plan that something almost magical happens. You start to develop a power of certainty that influences and surpasses your confidence. You unexpectedly see that there are ways to achieve your objectives.

Suddenly, your goals dribble, drop by drop, deep into your unconscious to find the means to make your dream a physical reality. It is when the fairy tale begins. I am pretty sure that there was at least one time in your life where you experienced the absolute power of certainty.

The Power of Certainty Is Personal

Too many people live between reality and fiction when it comes to sensing certainty. But I know from personal experience that you or anyone is capable enough to do many things that most people think are impossible. Your certainty and confidence are about what you believe it to be. What is important is your perception.

"Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you are dead right." - Henry Ford

Therefore, perhaps it is often up to what you believe to be true. It sounds annoyingly accurate, isn't it? Of course, the power of certainty is not something you can just switch on or off. Very often, you need help with your ability to build and uphold your certainty as well as your confidence, mainly when it comes to challenging circumstances.

The Unbelievable Power of Certainty

At the moment you begin to carry yourself with certainty, people become logically attracted to that quality you have. When others feel your power of certainty, they tend to start trusting you as well. And as soon as you speak with certitude and act with conviction, it alters the way the world around you responds. Great leaders and dictators throughout history are excellent examples of this.

You need to realize that the power of certainty creates opportunities that would not have existed otherwise. Your body language also has a significant influence on the way others perceive you. It includes the way you carry yourself, your gestures, facial expressions, walk, and even your care. And all of these, in turn, send strong signals to your nervous system and unconscious mind.

It means that if your body sends signals to your nervous system which matches a personal power of certainty, your attitude will also adjust as to be in tune with these signs. You have to learn to develop and display incomparable certainty because it will change your life for good at every level of your being. Certainty and confidence are like powerful magnets.

Possessing the Power of Certainty

When you possess the power of certainty, with no doubt in yourself and your abilities, you begin to attract new chances, means, opportunities, resources, and people into your life. You suddenly start to find ways to open whatever doors are necessary to create the life you want.

Today, certainty is a necessity for being a successful person. So if this post resonates with you, why don't you start building certainty for yourself and see the difference it will make for you. You now know that it only takes common sense and discipline to reach beyond confidence and tap into the power of certainty.

Remember that if other people can do it, you can, too. But to actually develop, grow and improve the power of certainty, you should make it a routine to find the role models and take example by reading about people who inspire you to what is possible and impossible. So do not be reticent to plunge into the unbelievable power of certainty to help you achieve your goals and dreams.

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